Dr. Mehjabeen
In life, we are often encouraged to dream big, set goals, and work hard to achieve them. But what we are rarely taught is how important it is to protect those dreams not just from failure or distractions, but from the people we choose to share them with. Sharing your plans, goals, and breakthroughs is a natural human impulse. We all seek connection, validation, encouragement, and sometimes simply a listening ear. However, what many fail to realise is that not everyone deserves access to your inner world. Not everyone is connect to receive your plans with joy, your growth with grace, or your decisions with understanding. And when we constantly share with the wrong people, it can create deep, lasting psychological effects.
Every time you share something precious a goal, a new vision, a decision to grow you’re offering a piece of your mental and emotional energy. It’s like handing over a seed you’ve been nurturing in private, hoping the other person will water it with hope, positivity, or at least neutral But if the person you’re sharing with is negative, competitive, unsupportive, or simply unaware of their own inner struggles, they may unknowingly project doubt, fear, or jealousy onto your seed. Instead of watering it, they wither it. They might say things like, “Are you sure?”, “That’s too hard”, “You might fail”, or worst of all, “I don’t think you’re capable.” And these words though sometimes subtle and disguised as concern can sit in your mind like shadows.
This is where psychological boundaries become essential. Research in psychology shows that emotional contagion is real: the moods, attitudes, and energies of the people around us affect us. If you are constantly surrounded by people who are cynical, negative, insecure, or dismissive, it will impact how you feel about yourself and, by extension, how you see your future. You might begin doubting your own capabilities. You may unconsciously shrink your dreams to fit the expectations of others. You might start delaying action, overthinking every move, or even self-doubts because of the invisible weight of someone else’s disbelief.
On the other hand, when you share your goals with positive-minded people those who celebrate growth, cheer for progress, and genuinely want to see you succeed the psychological effect is entirely different. Positive people reflect your light back to you. They remind you of your strengths. They say, “Go for it!”, “You’ve got this,” or “Tell me how I can help.” Their encouragement becomes fuel for your courage. Their belief becomes a mirror that helps you see yourself more clearly.
Positive people are not just “nice” to be around. They are essential to your emotional well-being and personal development. They understand that success is not a competition; it’s a collective celebration. Their joy is expansive, not limited. When you win, they don’t feel small they feel inspired. And being around them creates a safe space for vulnerability, which is vital when you are in the process of building, transforming, or healing.
It’s important to remember that not everyone who is negative is a bad person. Many are wounded themselves. Their discouragement comes from fear, their jealousy from their own unfulfilled potential, their judgment from a place of pain. But you are not responsible for fixing them at the cost of your own growth. Empathy is important, but it should never come at the price of your own mental clarity or emotional health.
This is why intentional relationships matter. You have to choose your vibes the few people who understand your vision or at least respect it. It’s okay to be selective. You’re not being arrogant or secretive by protecting your energy; you’re being wise. Not every soul you meet is meant to walk your journey with you, and not every friend is Responsible to handle your transformation. Some only liked the version of you who was unsure, silent, or small and when you begin to grow, they feel threatened. That’s not your burden to carry.
Instead, nurture connections with those who empower you, even in silence. Those who don’t compete, compare, or critique every step you take, but rather offer presence, hope, and truth. Seek mentors, coaches, or peers who have walked the path of growth and understand the emotional journey it involves. Surround yourself with people who speak life into your dreams, not doubt.
Another reason why sharing your breakthroughs with positive people matters is because it helps sustain momentum. Growth is often invisible in the early stages. When you’re working hard behind the scenes, changing old patterns, making difficult choices, or pushing through fear, it helps to have someone say, “I see you. Keep going.” That kind of validation — coming from a place of love, not ego — can be life-changing. It reminds you that you’re not alone. It grounds you during hard times. And most importantly, it helps you trust yourself.
We live in an age where sharing is encouraged from social media to group chats, there’s constant pressure to announce every decision and declare every goal. But wisdom lies in discernment. You don’t have to explain your path to everyone. You don’t owe people access to every detail of your vision. Let your success speak for itself, and in the meantime, protect the soil where your dreams are planted.
Conclusion
Your plans, goals, decisions, and breakthroughs are sacred they are the essence of your inner growth and self-belief. Sharing them with the wrong people can lead to doubt, delay, and internal conflict. But sharing them with positive-minded individuals who genuinely care, who uplift and understand you, can elevate your journey beyond what you imagined. You don’t need a crowd just a few genuine souls who want to see you rise. So, choose wisely. Surround yourself with those who water your spirit, not those who drain it. Protect your dreams like seeds, and give them sunlight through the company of positivity. Because in the end, the people you allow into your inner circle don’t just influence your thoughts they shape the story you tell yourself. Make sure it’s a story of courage, growth, and light.
Dr Mehjabeen
Founder vision high mental health wellness
www.drmehjabeenvisionhigh.com
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